Harry Styles Explains His Sexuality and Why Labels Are ‘Outdated’
Being in the spotlight for over a decade can take a toll on your personal life. British superstar Harry Styles discussed the impact on his sexuality and intimacy, specifically, in his most recent feature with Better Homes & Gardens.
The former boy bander, whose third solo album Harry’s House is due May 20, opened up about his experience working through dating and love-related issues with a therapist at the start of the COVID-19 pandemic.
“For a long time, it felt like the only thing that was mine was my sex life. I felt so ashamed about it, ashamed at the idea of people even knowing that I was having sex, let alone who with,” he said.
The public has been keeping a close eye on nearly every aspect of the singer’s life since he first rose to fame in 2010 as a member of One Direction. The pop band that was founded and handpicked on the talent TV show, The X Factor, quickly found itself as the center of attention for millions of adoring fans, who wanted to know everything about the group’s beloved members Zayn Malik, Niall Horan, Louis Tomlinson, Liam Payne, and Harry.
“At the time, there were still the kiss-and-tell things. Working out who I could trust was stressful,” Styles added.
Harry has been dating Olivia Wilde for almost two years but chose not to mention his relationship with the Don’t Worry Darling director in the interview. Harries have speculated that the star is private about his relationship because before he went public with Wilde, the internet was abuzz with rumors — some of them downright hateful and intrusive — regarding Styles’s sexuality and dating life.
Since his press circuit for his sophomore album Fine Line, the “Watermelon Sugar” crooner has been known to sport dresses, gracing the cover of Vogue in a gown back in 2020 as well as adopting an overall more traditionally feminine-coded style. In 2021, he even launched his own beauty brand, Pleasing, which has become popular for its variety of pearly nail polish shades. Harry is also a known LGBTQ+ supporter, frequently waving pride flags during concerts, including when he headlined Coachella earlier this month when he grabbed a bisexual flag from the crowd, and donating to charities that support the queer community.
And Harry seems very secure with his undisclosed identity, with him calling speculation over his sexuality “outdated.”
Styles said, “I’ve been really open with it with my friends, but that’s my personal experience; it’s mine,” adding, “The whole point of where we should be heading, which is toward accepting everybody and being more open, is that it doesn’t matter, and it’s about not having to label everything, not having to clarify what boxes you’re checking.”
Cheers towards a more open, accepting, and label-free future, Harry!
Abby is an editorial assistant at Seventeen, covering pop culture, beauty, life, and health. When she’s not busy watching the latest true crime docuseries, you can find her strolling through Sephora, thrifting the perfect dress, or jogging with her pup.