What’s it like to have sex after leaving a long-term relationship? Three women share their experiences

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When 41-year-old Alice* left her 15-year relationship, she described her next-level sex as an “otherworldly” experience.

“Rather than just feeling the orgasm as a surface thing that happens around your clitoris, it [was] more like constant waves of pleasure through your entire body,” she tells ABC podcast Ladies, We Need to Talk.

But sex wasn’t always this good for Alice — in her previous relationship, it had become routine.

“We just lost the passion,” she says.

Alice started having ‘life-changing’ sex a year-and-a-half ago when she fell in love with a woman during lockdown.

‘I’m never going to be the same’

Before her current partner, Alice was living overseas with her ex-husband and children.

Without a working visa, she found being a stay-at-home mum an isolating experience and seeking affection from her ex-husband “emotionally exhausting”.

“We just were like ships in the night really trying to avoid one another,” she says.

“I don’t think proper beautiful, passionate kissing had happened for about 10 years.”

As Alice’s desire for love and passionate sex was ignored, their connection faded.


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