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Elon Musk’s Sister Speaks About Starting An Erotic Netflix For Women

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Elon Musk may steal the spotlight, but his younger sister has a passion for business too.

Elon Musk — Tesla CEO and the world’s richest man — isn’t the only member of the Musk family with an entrepreneurial mindset. Tosca Musk, the eccentric billionaire’s younger sister, is proving that the affinity for business runs in the family. While her older brother has been working hard to acquire Twitter, Tosca has focused her energy on building a platform with a decidedly different audience in mind — women looking for romantic content to stream.

The 47-year-old is the CEO and co-founder of a company called Passionflix, which launched back in 2017. The service offers a range of movie and TV adaptations of popular romance novels and erotic fiction.


Not only does the service offer many licensed titles, but there are plenty of original productions as well — and according to a new profile by The New York Times — many of them are directed by Tosca herself.

“Most of the time people look down at romance – there is apparently something radical in having female desire as a main theme – and they don’t think that romance is intellectual enough,” she told the outlet. “I think that is wrong. Romance is about validating emotions. It’s about removing shame from sexuality. It’s about uplifting stories.”

She added: “Nothing we do is about being a victim or women in jeopardy or the domestication of women.”


Although the Passionflix CEO admits the pandemic presented a huge obstacle for the $ 6-a-month service, which only worsened as the launch of streaming services by Paramount and Disney threatened to oversaturate the mark, subscriptions are growing regardless.

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Passionflix subscriptions grew 73 percent in 2021, which helped the platform secure $22 million in early funding, according to the NYT.

When it came to whether her extremely wealthy brother had invested in the platform, Tosca kept her lips sealed, telling the mag: “If I say that he is an investor, then everybody says, ‘Oh, she just got her brother to pay for it. And if I say he didn’t invest, then you all say, ‘He doesn’t support her.'”


While Tosca’s brother may be worth roughly $200 billion, through her business ventures she’s managed to create a sizeable fortune of her own that’s nothing to scoff at. Reports vary, but the Passionflix CEO is allegedly worth roughly $170 million.

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What is sex positivity and why does it matter for women

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You have likely seen sex-positive in different hashtags on social media. What comes to mind when you see it? Nudity or being involved in rowdy threesomes? 

Unlike the heredity traits, you have to push your way through culture, religious belief, family background, and others before you embrace your sexuality without the fear of what another person will say about you. 

What does sex positivity mean and how does it matter to women? Check out this article for more information.

What does sex positivity mean?

Though the term “sex positivity” is relatively new, it is gradually making its way to the media. It is believed that the term was first used by feminists about 3 decades ago to express their sexuality and the way they want to be seen.

If discussed in a broader sense, sex-positivity could be described as being positive about sex without feeling shameful. The idea is that people should embrace their gender, and learn about their sexuality, without feeling shameful or judgmental about it so far it is consensual. 

For someone, who is positive about sex, means such a person believe that sex is natural and normal, and that individual should be free to express their sexuality and orientation without being intimated or oppressed. Conversation about topics such as masturbation and sexual satisfaction are to be accepted as normal, than taboo or negative in nature. An example of increasing sex positivity in society includes things like the increasingly normalisation and popularity and ease of ability to purchase things such as dildos and other sex toys. 

Also, such a person is ready to accept and respect the sexuality of others, sexual identity, and orientation. Being sex-positive makes the person open to unlearning and learning new things about their body as well as being open to freely discussing sex topics.

Nevertheless, sex-positivity does not have to be about you and how you see others alone. It could mean fighting and defending the rights of others. For instance, you could be involved in the decriminalization of sex workers or advocate for sex education that is not based on fear.

What does it matter to women?

Though many view sex-positive women as being constantly obsessed with sex. Sex positivity is not about sex alone and it matters to women in many ways. Below are some of the ways it matters to women.

Helps with anxiety

Through sex education that is based on fear and abstinence, strict religious doctrine, and the way society sees sexual topics, many women still feel shameful around the sexual discourse. When a woman is positive, such a woman will be deeply connected with her partner and it will eradicate the conditioned belief that brings anxiety when it is time for intercourse.

As a woman, a feeling of anxiety when you want to have sex with your partner could lead to sexual dysfunction such as loss of sex drive. Being sex-positive in conjunction with therapy can help with such issues. Moreover, it could also be helpful for people who have issues with sexual identity.  

Health benefits

Sex positivity has many health benefits for women. The truth is that World Health Organization (WHO) has endorsed it and says that it is important for sexual health. Sexual health includes different things such as being proud of one’s sexuality and freely discussing it.

Apart from that, a sexually healthy woman is more likely to enjoy sexual pleasure than someone that is not. Also, sex positivity helps women to avoid unwanted pregnancy and sexually transmitted infections. If there is a need, you will also access good healthcare.

Your mental health could also be enhanced when you are sex-positive. It is less likely that you feel isolated, embarrassed, or shameful about your sexual identity. Sex positivity also helps you build resilience which will help you fight stigma and depression.  

Conclusion

Being sex-positive as a woman does not mean you have more than one partner but you can go ahead if it is safe and consensual. It simply means that you should be open and embrace your fear.

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Mixed reactions trail older women dating younger men

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Often the popular saying, “age is just a number”, pops up when an older person is romantically involved with a younger person.

From time immemorial, men were the usual suspect in cradle snatching but in recent times, women are gradually closing rank with men, probably because women are more independent financially, which has given them leverage.

Some respondents in separate interviews with the News Agency of Nigeria (NAN) in Lagos on Sunday expressed divergent views on the idea of women dating and marrying men younger than them.

A baker, Anita Ebere, told NAN that there was nothing wrong with a woman dating or married to a man younger than her, as long as there was mutual respect.

According to Ms Ebere, she is currently dating a younger man and her relationship is in bliss.

“There is nothing wrong in dating a man younger if you are in love. I love my boyfriend who is four years younger than me, and we are getting married soon.

“As long as there’s mutual respect, I believe it’s no big deal. As a man, he is the head of our home, that’s not negotiable, as long as third parties are not privy to the information.

“Men, who are older than you tend to assert unnecessary authority over you, but younger men, are willing to hear you and carry you along in decision making,” she said.

Adeola Kolade, a fashion designer, said younger men had more energy and life span to satisfy older women sexually.

“Women are harder to satisfy sexually, some women with strong sexual appetites prefer younger men because they have the stamina to satisfy their sexual desires,” Ms Kolade said.

Priscilla Badmus, a fashion stylist and entrepreneur, told NAN that “love is not predictable, and women have their preferences.

“I prefer to date and marry an older man than marrying someone younger than me. I don’t have any reason. It’s just my taste; women who date younger men spend more in relationships, especially in Nigeria.

“However, if it happens that the young man has more money than the older woman, then many things will be compromised in the relationship, it’s all about preference.”

According to Stephen Odeyemi, a banker, dating a younger person irrespective of gender is a personal thing as long as the relationship is mutually beneficial.

“I don’t believe younger men date older women just because of money, there are lots of young men who love the peace of mind that comes with being with someone who’s mature and older.

“As I said, it depends on the two parties. For me, dating can work but marrying someone older than me, there are many risks involved like authority and money issues.

“A younger person will not feel intimidated by your authority; an older woman because of experience might want to drag leadership. It may not end up well,” he said.

Hassan Baker, a businessman, said that older women tend to be more understanding and patient in relationships.

“Younger ladies only seek sex, money and material things from men. But an older woman will plan along with you with maturity.

“I love being married to a woman older than me, satisfying a woman younger than me is something I can’t think of, younger women have a strong sexual appetite than a woman older than you.

“I didn’t love my wife initially, but I grew to love her because she was patient with me and also because of family pressure, I had to. They didn’t even know she was older. She had this sense of comportment.

“My wife spends more than me because she is the richer one. She doesn’t even bully me, and I don’t feel threatened in any way, financially or sexually,” he said.


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John Ademuyiwa, a civil servant, told NAN that the economic situation of the country had made it difficult to understand some current trends.

“In the society, a lot of things are happening. You meet a very young handsome boy that is hopeful and can’t feed himself and you can give him money and befriend him, he will follow you, and I think it’s just the economy.

“The economy is doing a lot of things. It makes it easier for a young man who is supposed to meet a very young girl, to prefer an elderly woman.

“Older women will be like have you eaten today? Let me send some money to your account, she gives you relief and when the elderly woman is going to help you, the young one will be taking from him,” he said.

According to him, the woman may be serious about the relationship, but the young man cannot be.

“It’s very difficult to be committed to that kind of relationship. In the African setting, it’s actually difficult for a man to be naturally in love with a woman like that.

“Something is always attached to it, he collects the money and you give her the attention. But if you ask him to marry that kind of elderly woman, he will be ashamed.

“The older woman puts all of her heart in it but for the boys, they might still have their small small girls around,” Mr Ademuyiwa said.

Mr Ademuyiwa, however, said that it was easy for a young lady to fully fall in love with an older man than for a boy to truly be in love with an older woman.

“It’s easy for a girl to fall in love because the man will be very kind, take care of her, treat her like a queen, and always show that he wouldn’t beat her anyway. While her mates will beat her up, the man will not beat her.

“She might end up really wanting to marry him. It’s very possible for a younger girl to be in love with an elderly man,” he said.

On the possible effect of dysfunctional mummy issues, Mr Ademuyiwa told NAN that the absence of a mother figure should not trigger a young boy to have sexual relationships with an older woman.

“So, because you are looking for a mother figure, you want to now start sleeping with your mother?

“Your mother is someone that can beat you up. You will fall in love with a mother figure, and all you want to do is to be sleeping with her?” he asked.

(NAN)


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Nigerians speak on growing trend of older women dating younger men

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Often times the popular saying, “age is just a number”, pops up when an older person is romantically involved with a younger person.

From time immemorial, men were the usual suspect in cradle snatching but in recent times, women are gradually closing rank with men, probably because women are more independent financially, which has given them leverage.

Some respondents in separate interviews with the News Agency of Nigeria (NAN) in Lagos on Sunday expressed divergent views on the idea of women dating and marrying men younger than them.

‘Mutual respect’

A baker, Anita Ebere, told NAN that there was nothing wrong in a woman dating or married to a man younger than her, as long as there was mutual respect.

According to Ebere, she is currently dating a younger man and her relationship is in bliss.

“There is nothing wrong in dating a man younger if you are in love. I love my boyfriend who is four years younger than me, and we are getting married soon.

“As long as there’s mutual respect, I believe it’s no big deal. As a man, he is the head of our home, that’s not negotiable, as long as third parties are not privy to the information.

“Men, who are older than you tend to assert unnecessary authority over you, but younger men, are willing to hear you and carry you along in decision making,” she said.

‘Sexual satisfaction’
Adeola Kolade, a fashion designer, said that younger men had more energy and life span to satisfy older women sexually.

“Woman are harder to satisfy sexually, some women with strong sexual appetites prefer younger men because they have the stamina to satisfy their sexual desires,” Kolade said.

Miss Priscilla Badmus, a fashion stylist and entrepreneur, told NAN that “love is not predictable, and women have their preferences.

“I prefer to date and marry an older man than marrying someone younger than me. I don’t have any reason. It’s just my taste; women who date younger men spend more in relationships, especially in Nigeria.

“However, if it happens that the young man has more money than the older woman, then many things will be compromised in the relationship, it’s all about preference.”

‘A personal thing’
According to Stephen Odeyemi, a banker, dating a younger person irrespective of gender is a personal thing as long as the relationship is mutually beneficial.

“I don’t believe younger men date older women just because of money, there are lots of young men who love the peace of mind that comes with being with someone who’s mature and older.

“As I said, it depends on the two parties. For me, dating can work but marrying someone older than me, there are many risks involved like authority and money issues.

“A younger person will not feel intimidated by your authority; an older woman because of experience might want to drag leadership. It may not end up well,” he said.

‘Patient in relationships’
Hassan Baker, a businessman, said that older woman tend to be more understanding and patient in relationships.

“Younger ladies only seek sex, money and material things from men. But an older woman will plan along with you with maturity.

“I love being married to a woman older than me, satisfying a woman younger than me is something I can’t think of, younger women have a strong sexual appetite than a woman older than you.

“I didn’t love my wife initially, but I grew to love her because she was patient with me and also because of family pressure, I had to. They didn’t even know she was older. She had this sense of comportment.

“My wife spends more than me because she is the richer one. She doesn’t even bully me, and I don’t feel threatened in any way, financially or sexually,” he said.

‘Economy to be blamed’
Mr John Ademuyiwa, a civil servant, told NAN that the economic situation of the country had made it difficult to understand some current trends.

“In the society, a lot of things are happening. You meet a very young handsome boy that is hopeful and can’t feed himself and you can give him money and befriend him, he will follow you, and I think it’s just the economy.

“The economy is doing a lot of things. It makes it easier for a young man who is supposed to meet a very young girl, to prefer an elderly woman.

“Older women will be like have you eaten today? Let me send some money to your account, she gives you relief and when the elderly woman is going to help you, the young one will be taking from him,” he said.

According to him, the woman may be serious about the relationship, but the young man cannot be.

“It’s very difficult to be committed to that kind of relationship. In the African setting, it’s actually difficult for a man to be naturally in love with a woman like that.

“Something is always attached to it, he collects the money and you give her the attention. But if you ask him to marry that kind of elderly woman, he will be ashamed.

“The older woman puts all of her heart in it but for the boys, they might still have their small small girls around,” Ademuyiwa said.

Ademuyiwa, however, said that it was easy for a young lady to fully fall in love with an older man than for a boy to truly be in love with an older woman.

“It’s easy for a girl to fall in love because the man will be very kind, take care of her, treat her like a queen, and always show that he wouldn’t beat her anyway. While her mates will beat her up, the man will not beat her.

“She might end up really wanting to marry him. It’s very possible for a younger girl to be in love with an elderly man,” he said.

On the possible effect of dysfunctional mummy issues, Ademuyiwa told NAN that the absence of a mother figure should not trigger a young boy to have sexual relationships with an older woman.

“So, because you are looking for a mother figure, you want to now start sleeping with your mother?

“Your mother is someone that can beat you up. You will fall in love with a mother figure, and all you want to do is to be sleeping with her?” he asked. (NAN)


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An 85-year-old cult leader forced teens to have sex with him. Now the women are telling their stories.

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  • A new documentary series on Netflix exposes the horrors of a church in Utah.
  • One woman said she was forced to marry an 85-year-old leader of the cult when she was 19.

Content warning: This article mentions sexual abuse.

When Rebecca Wall Musser was 19 years old, her father married her off to Rulon Jeffs, the 85-year-old head of the polygamous cult, the Fundamentalist Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints.

She said that after the wedding, Jeffs rolled on top of her and said, “Spread your legs.”

“I felt like, ‘This is everything that we were told was bad,'” Musser recalled in the new Netflix documentary series “Keep Sweet: Pray and Obey.”

It details the horrifying experiences of the teenage girls and young women who were abused by the leaders of the FLDS, who called themselves prophets.

Rebecca Wall Musser was terrified when her octogenarian new husband forced her into sex as a teen.Netflix

The rebels formed the cult after the mainstream Mormon church outlawed polygamy in 1904.

Musser tells her story in the first episode of the documentary. She appears with her other so-called “sister wives,” including Alicia Rohbock, who was forced to marry Jeffs a year after Musser. At the time, he was 86 and Rohbock was 20.

One of Rulon Jeffs’ wives said she was made to clean up after him because he was incontinent

Rohbock described how her former husband, who was too frail to walk on his own, would demand that she took him to the bathroom following sex.

She said that he wouldn’t always make it to the toilet before wetting himself, leaving her to clean up. “That was my introduction to the blow dryer,” Rohbock told the series’ director, Rachel Dretzin, about the first time she dealt with his incontinence and used the device on the carpet.

An 85-year-old cult leader forced teens to have sex with him. Now the women are telling their stories.
Alicia Rohbock was forced to marry and have sex with a man who was 66 years old than her.Netflix

Appearing in home videos in “Keep Sweet: Pray and Obey,” Jeffs has plastic breathing tubes inserted in his nostrils. Rohbock recalled stepping on the cord attached to the oxygen tank once and the octogenarian getting “pretty angry” because she’d “yanked his face.”

Rohbock and Musser managed to escape the confines of the FLDS, which was located within a mountain range near the Utah-Arizona border. The remote community made headlines across the world when Rulon’s successor, his son, Warren Jeffs, was arrested in 2006 by the FBI.

Women and girls in the FLDS said they were kept in line by the men and had to pretend they were happy

Five years later, in 2011, Warren Jeffs was found guilty of sexual assault of a child and aggravated sexual assault of a child. He’d married two girls, then aged 15 and 12, and added them to his collection of wives, believed to have numbered almost 90.

In “Keep Sweet: Pray and Obey,” a woman going by the name Charlene said the prophets adopted the mantra to keep the women and girls in line.

Charlene said that the phrase “keep sweet, pray, and obey,” which was often sung aloud, meant “to be in control of your emotions and you didn’t display things like anger or resentment or frustration.”

Musser also remembered how the girls, who wore prairie dresses, had no rights. “They didn’t let us work, they didn’t let us go to school,” she said. “Our sole purpose was to be in religious prayer and to be obedient, adoring.”

An 85-year-old cult leader forced teens to have sex with him. Now the women are telling their stories.
This young girl was one of the members of the FLDS cult who was forced into an arranged marriage with a much older man.Netflix

Wallace Jeffs, one of Warren Jeffs’ younger brothers, told Dretzin that he thought most of the men in the FDLS regarded women as “chattel” and “property.”

He said they had been indoctrinated to think they would be accepted into the “highest degree of the celestial kingdom” if they took at least three brides and had as many children as they could.

The former disciple explained how he decided to leave the FLDS after seeing a photograph of his then middle-aged brother kissing a teenager. “That’s when I said, ‘I’m done,'” he said.

Rohbock talked about her cloistered upbringing, saying the wedding kiss she received from the elder Jeffs was her first. “He gave me one heck of a smacker and I felt like I was being sucked in,” Rohbock said. According to the Netflix series, the leader of the sect married more than 30 women before dying, at age 92, in 2002.

An 85-year-old cult leader forced teens to have sex with him. Now the women are telling their stories.
The casket of Rulon Jeffs, who died in 2022 at the age of 92, is surrounded by his many wives and other female members of the FLDS.Netflix

“A young girl dreams of fairy tales and all that kind of stuff and your brain runs away with you. and you think it’s going to be magical,” Rohbock said. “Yeah, it wasn’t magical.”

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Study suggests that satisfaction with the internal experience of sex is more important for men than for women

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New research suggests that men and women differ when it comes to the aspects of sexual satisfaction that are most important to their quality of life. The findings, published in the journal Sexual and Relationship Therapy, suggest that satisfaction with internal experiences like physical pleasure is more important for men, whereas satisfaction with relational components like emotional connection is more important for women.

Numerous psychology studies have found that sexual satisfaction predicts outcomes related to quality of life. For example, sexual satisfaction is positively tied to relationship satisfaction and happiness and negatively tied to depression and anxiety. However, the overall findings suggest some nuance to these relationships.

While some studies have presented strong correlations between sexual satisfaction and quality of life, others have uncovered only weak relationships. Study authors Kyle R. Stephenson and his colleagues proposed that this discrepancy may result from differences in how researchers have conceptualized sexual satisfaction.

When measuring sexual satisfaction, few studies have distinguished between two distinct aspects of the sexual experience. The intrapersonal aspects of sex refer to the internal experience, such as one’s own pleasure and arousal. The interpersonal aspects of sex are the relational components, such as romance and the sharing of emotions. Stephenson and his team say that the relationship between sexual satisfaction and quality of life may depend on which aspects of sex are being considered.

To explore this, the study authors distributed questionnaires among 188 adults currently in relationships. The average age of the sample was 26, and 62% of participants were women. The participants completed the New Sexual Satisfaction Scale (NSS), which addresses both the “ego-centered” and “partner-centered” aspects of sexual satisfaction. Participants also completed measures of five quality of life outcomes — life satisfaction, relationship satisfaction, depression, anxiety, and stress.

The researchers conducted multiple sets of comparisons to determine how each aspect of sexual satisfaction was related to each quality of life outcome. They also looked for gender differences in these relationships.

Across the sample, intrapersonal sexual satisfaction was a significant predictor of quality of life, while interpersonal sexual satisfaction was not. The only exception was for relationship satisfaction, which was predicted by both intrapersonal and interpersonal aspects. Interestingly, when isolating the effects for men and women, differences emerged.

For men, the internal components of sex appeared to be most important — intrapersonal sexual satisfaction was a significant predictor of every quality of life outcome while interpersonal sexual satisfaction was not. For women, the results were less straightforward. Neither aspect of sexual satisfaction predicted depression, both aspects predicted relationship satisfaction and life satisfaction, and only interpersonal sexual satisfaction predicted anxiety and stress.

One interpretation of these results is that both facets of sexual satisfaction are important for women, while the internal experience is the stronger concern for men. While this conclusion could suggest that men are less concerned about their partner’s sexual experiences, the researchers note that there may be alternative explanations. For example, men might be less aware of their partner’s sexual experiences — possibly because sexual stereotypes dissuade women from communicating their sexual preferences and experiences with their partners.

Stephenson and colleagues say their study sample was small and non-diverse and that future studies should be conducted among larger and more varied samples. In addition, the findings were correlational, and longitudinal and experimental research will be needed to shed light on the extent that sexual satisfaction contributes to quality of life.

The study, “Gender differences in the association between sexual satisfaction and quality of life”, was authored by Kyle R. Stephenson, Camryn Pickworth, and Parker S. Jones.

Study suggests that satisfaction with the internal experience of sex is more important for men than for women

Why Women Need To Embrace Sex, Not Feel Ashamed For It

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By Megan Gray

I grew up in an open-minded household. I was fortunate enough to have my parents communicate with me honestly, and I never felt shamed at home for exploring my sexuality.

Now that I’ve gotten that out of the way, I should also say that others still made many unwanted and unwarranted remarks about sex in passing. These comments started around middle school.

As we all know, middle school is a battlefield both inside your mind and in the outside world. You have to navigate through the unexplored wilderness that is your inner self and learn when to go with the flow. This includes when to “swerve” when it comes to your peers and their self-discoveries.

Middle school was no different for me, and having all of this information as quickly as I did was a wake-up call.

Considering my upbringing — even my grandma and I had a candid relationship — I didn’t know that exploring sexuality was “shameful” to some.

RELATED: How To Talk To Your Kids About Sex — Without Shame, Guilt, Or Common Heteronormative Myths

How could I have known that exploring such an important part of myself was frowned upon?

The fact of the matter is, I didn’t know, so when a teacher questioned me about reading a somewhat indecent book (that I didn’t even take out of my backpack!), all I could do was stare at her like I had no clue what she was talking about. The fact that the book even mentioned sex of any kind was a “negative,” even though it was a contemporary romance novel, not hardcore erotica.

Between middle school and high school, the sex-shaming started piling up more and more. My parents remained strong in their decision to keep communication with us as open and honest as possible — even going as far as to ensure that I was on birth control and buying a box of condoms that were accessible to us.


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Time to Address the Pleasure Gap between Men and Women – Amodrn

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June 9 is National Sex Day — a day in which to celebrate why sex is a good thing, for all genders. The pinnacle of sexual pleasure is of course the orgasm, but sadly the pleasure gap  is real: statistics show that only 33% of women and people with vaginas, reach an orgasm every time during male-female sexual encounters versus 75% of men and 30% of women and people with vaginas, have trouble climaxing at all. Satisfying sex is an essential part of both a man and woman’s overall physical and emotional wellbeing at any age. The health benefits of orgasms include decreased stress levels as orgasms release endorphins and flush cortisol, and are known to improve mood, with people being generally happier when having orgasmed.  For women,  orgasms promote estrogen levels to help regulate menstrual cycles, and improve sleep due to the release of prollocatic which aids in sleep quality according to multiple studies. 1 – 2 orgasms per week improves relationships through the release of oxytocin and lowers mortality risk by up to 50%.

With so much attention on men’s sexual health this past decade, it’s about time the focus shifted to women’s sexual health and dysfunction, as the health benefits from orgasming, should be equally experienced. We interviewed Dr. Caroline Colin, an OB/GYN serving the Santa Monica, California area, who recommends addressing female sexual dysfunction from where the orgasm more than likely stems — the clitoris. Keep reading to learn more! 

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Equalizing the Orgasm: Time to Address the Pleasure Gap between Men and Women

The sole function of the clitoris is the female orgasm: The clitoris is a fascinating part of the female anatomy with its sole purpose being to provide pleasure. That’s it. It is there to make us feel good.  The clitoris is located above the vaginal opening and you can only see a small part of the clitoris, as the majority of it is internal. For women and people with vaginas, orgasms most commonly come from the clitoris.

  1. Clitoral orgasms are the most common of all female orgasms: 70 to 80% of people with vaginas need direct clitoral stimulation, either with a toy, fingers, tongue, or the right position that hits the spot.
  2. Clitoral orgasms can last up to 30 seconds: According to research, clitoral orgasms can last from 10 to 30 seconds.  Not bad!
  3. Clitoral orgasms are stronger than a penile orgasm: The clitoris has 8,000 nerve endings (or more!), twice the amount of nerve endings in the head of a penis. Wow, and he thought he was having fun?

Dr. Caroline goes on to explain that the clitoris is one of the most sensitive erogenous zones in the body due to its high number of nerve endings.  However, the clitoral nerves require adequate blood flow in order to function properly. With menopause, low estrogen levels contribute to decreased blood flow, which in turn impacts the ability of the clitoral nerves to respond to stimulation. When addressing sexual dysfunction brought on my menopause, the focus should be on the clitoris.  A gentle alternative to rejuvenation surgery is the use of Cliovana, an acoustic sound-wave technology that is entirely non-invasive. This patented sound wave treatment increases clitoral responsiveness leading to greater sexual satisfaction, increased orgasm, intensity, frequency, and increased arousal and lubrication.

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This is done with the use of sound waves which have been used to treat a wide variety of soft tissue issues for 40 years.  Simply put, the sound wave technology boosts the process of regenerating cells in the genitals, resulting in improved blood flow to the clitoris, which increases sensitivity, all leading to more orgasms. Back to pleasure! This quick session is approximately 10 minutes and is done four times over two weeks. The results are often felt immediately and intensify over three months. Best of all, these effects last for a year or more and can be sustained with an annual revitalization session of two 10 minute treatments.

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Why Do Some Women Like Violent Porn?

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The received wisdom is that pornography is a product made by men for men that promotes attitudes of women as nothing more than sex objects. According to this point of view, porn portrays sexual acts that are degrading to women, and often violent toward them as well. It also sees porn as a danger to society, in that it provides models of aggression toward women, desensitizing male viewers toward such objectionable behavior and even encouraging them to treat women badly.

There’s some truth to this point of view, in that a fair amount of porn does focus on the sexual pleasure of the male, often dominating his partner and sometimes even aggressing against her. However, there’s little evidence to support the claim that watching violent porn leads to acts of sexual violence in real life.

Furthermore, there are many categories of porn, each of which attracts different audiences with their own particular sexual tastes. This includes “female-friendly” porn, which typically portrays loving couples in romantic situations that culminate in sex, with the man of course being very attentive to his partner’s sexual needs. Presumably, if a woman wants to watch porn, this is what she should want.

Likewise, women have recently entered the porn industry, not as performers but as producers. In fact, the company Bellesa promotes itself as “a porn company run by women.” Its website offers several categories of porn, including “rough,” by which they mean scenarios in which the man dominates the woman, not the other way around. But what kind of woman would want to watch such porn?

What Kind of Porn Turns Women On?

According to Finnish media researcher Susanna Paasonen, there’s good reason to think that women are attracted to the same range of pornographic depictions that men are. In a recent article, Paasonen analyzes the responses of more than 2000 Finnish women to questions regarding their porn-viewing behaviors. The key question: “Is there a thing that turns you on, even if it feels confusing, gross, or weird? Tell more!”

The survey was conducted by the Finnish public service broadcasting company Yle for a popular lifestyle program called Jenny+. The majority of the respondents were between 20 and 40 years of age, reflecting the demographic of the program’s viewership.

After the program had aired, the producers provided Paasonen with the transcripts. In it, she found many comments about viewing violent porn, ranging from domination and submission to slapping and hair pulling, and even rape. The format of the transcripts didn’t indicate where one response ended and the next began, so Paasonen wasn’t able to calculate the percentage of respondents who’d indicated such an interest. Nevertheless, the comments do provide important insights into women’s motivations for watching porn.

Porn as Fantasy and Not as a Reflection of Reality

Paasonen’s analysis of the transcripts revealed several interesting themes. First, respondents who indicated that they themselves felt aroused by violent porn often stated the belief that most women wouldn’t like it. Here we see the tension between a personal reality in which an individual woman is attracted to portrayals of sexual violence against women and the social norm that women should be repulsed by it.

This tension between personal reality and social norms often led to feelings of guilt and even questioning why they found violent porn arousing. As one respondent put it: “Sometimes I fear playing into the hands of patriarchy with my porn use, and that my arousal isn’t ‘real’ but that I’m conditioned by misogynistic crap.” In other words, some women were torn between how they felt and how they believed they should feel.

Second, many respondents who said they were aroused by violent porn emphasized that they didn’t want to engage in that kind of sexual behavior with their partner. One respondent stated: “I really don’t like this kind of sex in real life but for some reason, it turns me on the most in porn.” Such statements suggest that at least some people prefer different things when viewing porn versus having partnered sex.

In fact, many of the women expressed a clear understanding of porn as fantasy rather than a reflection of reality. While some women were turned on by violent porn and found romantic porn uninteresting, these same women also emphasized that what they wanted from their partners was romance and not rough play. This suggests that for these women porn isn’t a reflection of or substitution for their partnered sex life but rather a different aspect of their sexuality.

Porn as a Safe Place for Exploring One’s Sexuality

Finally, a number of the respondents said they were turned on by gay or lesbian porn even though they themselves were straight. Although previous research has shown people watch porn for the kind of sex they want to have with their partner, Paasonen notes that people can also look for other categories, often out of curiosity. In this way, porn provides people with a venue for exploring their own sexuality, learning in a safe environment what they like and dislike.

Furthermore, Paasonen points out that people can enjoy porn because they identify with one of the performers. But they can also experience it in a voyeuristic sense in which they watch the performers without self-identifying with any of them. In this way, watching porn is much like viewing any other visual medium, in that we may find the story interesting without ever wanting to have such experiences in real life.

Research like this shows that both men and women are attracted to a wide variety of porn genres. No doubt, preferences vary widely from person to person, and even within the same person from time to time. In other words, notions such as men liking violent porn and women preferring romantic porn are too simplistic. Rather, the spectrum of sexuality for both men and women is very broad, and porn provides a safe place for exploring those fantasies, especially ones that viewers wouldn’t want to act out in real life.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/blog/talking-apes/202206/why-do-some-women-violent-porn

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11 women share oral sex tips that get them to orgasm.

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Oral sex. 

It’s one of life’s simple pleasures right up there with fresh sheets and candlelit baths. But it’s also a fine art. Every vulva is different and preferences for oral sex can be oh so widely varied. 

That’s why we’re opening up the conversation, in a very intimate way. 

We asked our Mamamia audience to share their optimal oral sex routine; from the pre-performance rituals that get them in the mood, to the detailed techniques that get them to climax — and every detail in between, of course.  

And let me tell you, they were excited to share. We received over 50 responses, which we’ve narrowed down to a very interesting group of 11 women who aren’t afraid to get candid. 

Here are their orgasm-semi-guaranteed oral routines (because let’s face it, sometimes even in the perfect conditions it’s just not going to happen) to get them to climax between the sheets. 

Oh, and it goes without saying: NSFW reads ahead.

A 40-year-old single woman who can’t stop thinking about the best oral sex she ever had. 

Having a shower beforehand is always a bonus for self-confidence, but it’s not always needed if the mood takes over.

I like to be touched all over my body before anyone goes down on me instead of heading straight for the clit.  

The best head I have ever had was when I woke up to a partner stoking my breast so gently, followed by light kisses all over, and a trail of licks across my body, slowly making his way to my vulva. 

He kissed all around, down my thighs before spreading me open. He started by making small licks directly on my clit and gently adding pressure (not lapping like a dog), swirling his tongue every few licks and because he is a multitasker, one hand pinching my nipple and the other hand occasionally putting a finger inside, curling his finger towards the front. 

I came twice, and jelly legs followed.

The pressure is key; not too hard, and not too aggressive. Don’t slobber all over me, and find the right spot.

A 31-year-old bisexual woman whose partner has their oral routine down-pat.

I need to have a shower right before receiving oral sex, then I need some foreplay; things like light kissing all over my body, and light scratching on my back and thighs.

When it comes to ~the deed~ I am blessed with a gifted husband. We have been together for 14 years and he has a 100 per cent success rate of making me orgasm through oral sex without any additional support.

Having said that, fingers or toys are great but not necessary.

To reach orgasm, I need my partner to listen to me. If I say softer, I mean softer. If I said “don’t stop”, then DO. NOT. STOP. That’s why my husband is so amazing at it. He listens and responds. 


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